Reflections

Perverted and Pervasive: Catcalling in Public and Virtual Spaces

Photo from http://www.philly.com/philly/blogs/trending/Newly-hung-signs-declare-Philadelphia-New-York-no-catcall-zones.html “I would rather get murdered than raped,” Sarah* declared, as she narrated how unsafe she felt whenever she commutes. She complained how some of her male friends do not seem to grasp how pervasive the fear of sexual assault is. Even the act of getting to work and to her home is […] Read more…

The ABC’s of Growing Up

A Anxiety, Airplane Mode, Abstract When stuck and struck with waves of anxiety, I allow myself to be paralyzed. I don’t fight the current, because I know they would eventually carry me back to safer shores. I switch my phone to airplane mode, and my body takes this as a cue to calm down. No […] Read more…

In Defense of Instagrammers and Basic Bitches: Authenticity, Conformity, and Performativity in the Age of Social Media

On Authenticity: Isn’t It Ironic? A few months ago, Instagrammer Essena O’Neill made international news when she took a stand against social media. She edited the captions of her glamorous Instagram posts to reveal the “truth” behind the double life she led. She even called social media a “lie,” and encouraged others to quit social media, too. In one of her photos, she […] Read more…

New Year

10 Life-Changing Experiences I Had In 2015 (And what I learned from them)

What’s worse than staying stagnant? I think it’s moving towards the wrong direction. As you work harder and slowly deplete your resources, you become farther and farther from where you really want to be. This happened to me when I glorified busyness and lived a very unexamined life. I was tired, stressed, sad—all for a cause I […] Read more…

5 Ways Joining WhenInManila.com Changed My Life

Right after my stint in Candy CoC ’12, I had what I jokingly called the quarter-life crisis. I was 18 years old and unfulfilled, so I tried filling my schedule with co-curricular activities, While I did get to meet great friends and efficient co-workers, I felt busy but bored. I still didn’t find the fulfillment I needed. I then tried joining […] Read more…

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Greed and Go-Getters: A Confession

“Opportunity” is one of my favorite words. I associate it with other positive words like “go-getter” and “career woman.” Only recently did I realize how it could also be related to greed. In a surprising series of self-examination and (pa)deep conversations with others, I realized that opportunities make me greedy. I fall prey to inviting words […] Read more…

Welcome, 2015!

  Photo by Zeus Martinez #Welcome2015! I heard it’s better late than never. I’ve been working on this blog ever since May 2014: scouting for the perfect layout, the perfect headers, the perfect venue, the best photographer, the best make-up artist, and most of all, the best words to share a story. I made tentative […] Read more…

7 Overrated Things I Let Go Of in 2015

There are numerous clichés about success and career that have become so ingrained in us. Often times, these cliches are no longer analyzed and questioned, but considered to be universal truths. Hackneyed old sayings all emphasize hard work, busyness, and preparedness. I met some people and came across amazing articles that made me realize how some […] Read more…